NEW YORK — Regular romps in the bedroom are always a great way for couples to keep the spark alive, but as many spouses can attest to, getting around to fooling around seems to grow more difficult as the years pass by. So how much is “normal” when it comes to making love? According to a new survey, the average American couple has sex nine times per month — which translates to 108 times per year.

A new survey of 2,000 American adults in relationships by adult product online retailer EdenFantasys sought to find out just how important having sex was to most couples and how frequently they were enjoying time in the bedroom.

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Are you and your partner intimate enough? new survey finds that the average American couple has sex nine times per month — for about 69 minutes per week.

They found that the average couple has sex for, as it turns out, 69 minutes per week or about 60 hours per year.

While 3% of respondents claims they have sex a whopping minimum of 30 times in a month, it was much more normal for couples to admit that finding the time to make love wasn’t so easy. Three-quarters of participants found their busy schedules cause them to struggle to have sex regularly, and 60% admitted they wished they were having more sex. In fact, 12% of respondents said they were lucky to have sex even just once a month.

One solution to spicing up the romance between partners is to schedule “sexpointments,” that is, actually coming up with specific dates and times to do the deed. It may sound silly, but half of the respondents admit to coming up with an exact time and place for some intimacy. The study found that the average couple schedules six sexpointments each month, and that 20% found doing so to be even more romantic than doing it spontaneously.

As for why couples say they schedule sex, about 40% of respondents said that having kids in the house forces them to book those rare moments they have to themselves. Thirty-six percent said that their partner is often busy, leading them to take charge and pencil in sexpointments. A quarter of participants admitted they’re trying out the tactic just because they want to have sex more frequently.

The survey also showed that Saturday nights at 10 p.m. was the most popular time for couples to schedule their sexpointments.

The survey was conducted by OnePoll in January.

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  1. Silence of the Clams says:

    Wait…it didn’t say anywhere in that study that sex causes Cancer. useless….

  2. +One says:

    Old man and woman are watching TV. She says “hey , you want to go upstairs and have sex?” He replies” Pick one”.

  3. foulkeyu says:

    I’m no statistician and we don’t know how this was conducted, but I have to question the validity of a survey done by an “adult product online retailer.” Seems like there just might be a bit of an issue with selecting for people who tend to get it on more than most.

  4. Ken says:

    Look at who the study is sponsored by. This is so far off from reality for all but 20-30 somethings. For the 20-30 somethings with no children and success in their personal lives yes maybe 9 times a month is in the range. Add Children cut that in 1/2 immediately.
    Sexpointments may sound like a millenial word. It is NOT. They also do NOT work. This not a new idea. We tried that about 10 years ago and I would say less than 20-25% were actually kept.
    There is also much greater awareness of sexual harassment, spousal pressure and training in the workplace today. Many spouses today would NEVER even THINK about pressuring a partner to meet a sexpointment just because it is on a some calendar. That is not just disrespectful it would be considered unprofessional by millennial and Gen Y couples to pressure someone.
    Hit age 55 and 1-2 time per month is probably the maximum. If you average in the couples that have sex less than once a month the average would be less than once a month for middle age couples.
    The results at best might apply to a very limited age range and those within that range that fit certain additional criteria.

  5. rgray 317 says:

    Buy a sex doll. Never says no, never complains, never gets fat, never has an emotional melt down, never sleeps with everyone in the phone book, never wipes out the bank account.

  6. rgray 317 says:

    Liberal men make good cuckolds. They like doing clean up when other men are done with their wives.

  7. Doug Day says:

    M-W-F at 1:20 pm then a nap.

  8. snekrz says:

    Lol I call BS. Nothing average about that.

  9. Marine Mick says:

    I’m 75 and my wife is 66. Up until I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer in June 2015, and had 45 Prostate Radiation Treatments, my Wife and I had a wonderful sex life. I’m Cancer free, but my Dick is dead, and my Wife has Vaginal problems. We’ve Been married 43 years, and had a wonderful 40 years of Sex. We’re both retired today, and love each other more every day. Life is very good, and am so lucky to have the wife I have. Thank you God.

  10. Fonem says:

    69 minutes. Nice.