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NEW YORK — Half of Americans who live with their partner are willing to channel their inner Lucy and Desi … by sleeping in separate beds. A recent survey of 2,000 U.S. adults who live with a partner reveals that 49 percent would be willing to try sleeping in a separate bed as a way to get better rest!

That might be because the average cohabiting person receives less than four good nights of sleep a week, the survey shows.

But that doesn’t mean couples don’t want their quality time together. Despite a willingness to sleep in separate beds, more than two in five people (42%) prefer going to sleep at the same time as their partner. Couples use their time before closing their eyes to watch TV shows or movies together (28%), and chat about their day (24%). And, once they are ready to go to sleep, 53 percent of those surveyed prefer to cuddle their partner. 

Biggest sleep disruptors for couples

Conducted by OnePoll for Serta Simmons Bedding timed to National Sleep Awareness Month, the survey also explored what those who co-sleep view as their biggest sleep disruptors. Respondents say that their biggest annoyance is when their partner steals the covers (35%), wakes them up tossing and turning (35%), sleeps with the television on (28%), snores (28%) or sleeps with the lights on (27%). 

The survey also reports a divide with regards to the age-old question – do you shower before bed? Nearly two-thirds (64%) gave a resounding “yes” and 58 percent confirmed they would be bothered if their partner didn’t wash up before bedtime

Parents may also be struggling with more than just their partner’s sleep habits. More than one third reports that their child snuck into their bed two nights a week (37%) while one in five (20%) claimed that they were woken up with a little one coming to their bed three nights a week. 

“Great sleep is grounded in maintaining a strong sleep routine, whether you sleep on your own or co-sleep,” says head of sleep experience at Serta Simmons Bedding JD Velilla, in a statement. “For those who are looking to optimize co-sleeping, it’s important to work with your partner to commit to good sleep habits including regular sleep and wake times and minimizing light before bedtime. I also suggest removing unnecessary distractions from the bedroom, transforming it into a sleep sanctuary.” 

4 in 10 adults may still be sleeping with stuffed animals

People are creatures of habit and 40 percent of respondents continue to sleep on their own side of the bed when their partner is away. When sleeping away from home with their partner, 45 percent said the same rules apply. 

Sleep habits can start during childhood. More than half of respondents (56%) grew up sharing their room with a family member such as a sibling. The vast majority of these folks (86%) credit this experience for preparing them to be more accepting of sharing a room with their partner. 

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And, many adults haven’t let go of their blankies. Fifty-two percent admit they grew up sleeping with a security blanket or stuffed animal, while 77 percent of this group say they continue to do so — even when sharing a bed with their partner! That means 40 percent of adults are apparently sleeping with a “stuffy!”

Ultimately, when asked what could contribute to better sleep beyond sleeping in separate beds, respondents cited the following solutions: a new/better mattress (36%), new/better pillows (34%), or a bigger bed (29%). 

“Many people co-sleep and with that comes a natural set of sleep disruptors,” adds Velilla. “Individuals who co-sleep can look for solutions that minimize those disruptions, from features that address motion transfer to avoid middle-of-the-night wake ups to cooling technology that becomes that much more essential when sharing a bed.”

Survey methodology:

This random double-opt-in survey of 2,000 Americans who live with their partner was commissioned by Serta Simmons Bedding between Feb. 16 and Feb. 20, 2023. It was conducted by market research company OnePoll, whose team members are members of the Market Research Society and have corporate membership to the American Association for Public Opinion Research (AAPOR) and the European Society for Opinion and Marketing Research (ESOMAR).

About Sophia Naughton

Meet StudyFinds' Associate Editor, Sophia Naughton. Sophia graduated Magna Cum Laude from Towson University with a Bachelor of Science in Mass Communication directly focused in journalism and advertising. She is also a freelance writer for Baltimore Magazine. Outside of writing, her best buddy is her spotted Pit Bull, Terrance.

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1 Comment

  1. ky Re says:

    Yes, my lovely partner and I have seperate bedrooms, but since I am the lightest sleeper in the world…. we have peace in separate beds.

    I am blessed with an understanding partner.
    We read together in the same bad, until I feel sleepy, then off he goes so he does not keep waking me up.
    We adore each other and our intimacy. It bonds us better that constantly being woken up. A well rested partner is a happy partner