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Not with that attitude you won’t.
How do people date when they don’t have money? It’s over. We are in survival mode now.
Try voluntering to do tasks where others of your age may be doing the same. Take an amateur art course. Sign up for a community college course where you will meet new people. Advertise for a date. I expect this to be a fast-growing field. Get a better job where other people your age group are apt to be working. Chat up people you meet while shopping. Invite others to share a home meal with you. Smile more. Tell relatives and friends you are seeking dates. Spend a small amount of money–yes, even in survival mode–to buy a small treat for a person you might want to get to know better. Post a sign where you can.
‘Knowing your worth’ generally means grossly over-estimating your worth. A woman who is turning 30 and slept with half of the 6th fleet suddenly decides she wants kids and a guy making $500k a year to take care of her and can’t figure out why there are no takers.
So…you’ve met my sister in law?
Even if guys meet ‘the one’ and get married there is no guarantee against her deciding she is bored or unhappy and ready to move on. Some 80% of divorce is initiated by women (even though men and women cheat at equal rates) meaning guys lose 1/3 of their income and half of their marital assets for kids they see every other weekend as part of a divorce they don’t want while women risk nothing. Even if guys win the dating battle they still lose the war. Far too many decent guys with something to lose are deciding it simply isn’t worth it. And this isn’t even factoring in the women who are happy to have a wealthy guy get them pregnant just to have someone support their kid. An attractive but nutcase of a woman I know intentionally let her millionaire bf get her pregnant and ended up with a nice paid-for house and 18 years of support for her and the child. Some crazy expensive sex there.
Millions of very wonderful young people exist who have self respect and wish good relationships.
Dating has always been a cycle of meeting a few ‘toads’, some bad experiences, some periods of no dates at all, of being dumped, being ignored etc. Stop being so dependent on an electronic device to determine who you meet and how you meet.
Join some sort of singles group for if you go out to singles ‘meet up’ place, simply have some conversation. If things progress, stop worrying about the dynamics of texting, ghosting, social media. etc.
Eventually, you will meet someone with your values.
I really feel bad for the women who have bought the liberal woke line that there is nothing wrong with fucking 130 guys and having an Only Fans and that any guy who objects is just slut shaming and you just need to know your worth hold out for a guy who doesn’t mind..
POF has more scammers then all of the other apps together.
Be an honest, working, goal setting (for yourself) individual and the right person will find you. There will be losers in the mix, but if you go looking, you double your exposure to mistakes. Don’t try to change people, and don’t let people change you. If you get up and go to work or school everyday, you won’t have time to worry about things you cannot change.
They have already met their love IN THE MIRROR
As the west declines into 2nd world status “dating” will get a lot more “patriarchal” and simple. Bank on it
Modern women: Heavily tattooed, overweight and abrasive. Divorce courts heavily weighted in favor of women means a guy will lose, so you might as well take your chances at a casino card table. Hard pass on marriage.
With all the angry Karens out there who would want to look?
I married, many decades ago, a wonderful young schoolteacher. We were very happy together and I still mourn her death from a terminal illness. I am biased in favor of marrying school teachers. They are generally smart, intelligent, hard working, and have great self-respect.
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