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Men should break away from the worldly things and come to Jesus. You’ll find peace like you’ve never had.
AMEN!!! When I start to feel down I think upon the Lord and soon my worries evaporate. And as you suspect, its the worldly things which bug me most. Almost exclusively about the direction this nation has taken over the last 50 plus years.
I wish that were completely true….but it just isnt.
I grew up the son of an ordained Assemblies of God pastor. I had a “relationship with Jesus” for the majority of my life. However, I found more judgement, hypocrisy, hate, mental, and spiritual sickness within the church body than anywhere else. In retrospect, I still stand appalled at the the way “the body” treated my father, and my family at times.
My observations were only reinforced as a grew older. I am convinced there is a reason why Jesus himself kept his circle small…12 people. There is a reason why he didnt hang out in church and “fellowship” with those in the church. Sure he said “forsake not the assembling of yourselves together”, but there is also a reason why he said in Matthew chapter 18 “when two or three are gathered in my name, I am there in the midst of them”.
Sure, a truly personal, as in private, 1:1, relationship with Christ may be very rewarding, and in more ways than one. However, I have learned any such relationship in within the context of “the body of Christ”, as in surrounded by church-goers is anything but fullfillling….no thank you!! … Im out. “The church” is not conducive to strong mental health. I find God in many places every day, but I have never found him in a church pew.
Men should break away from the worldly things and come to Jesus. You’ll find peace like you’ve never had or thought possible.
You can also actively work on improving mental health. I’ve always prayed but 10 years of actively working on my mental health had 10 times the results as 25 years of praying about it.
How best to do that?
I can tell you why guys don’t talk about their issues. It’s because the world doesn’t care what happens to us. Asking how we’re doing is simple lip service. Men are berated from all angles as toxic and worthless in a society that caters to everything except a man’s inherent value captured through his masculinity. Stop emasculating the men, appreciate what value we contain masculinity, encourage those aspects, and you’ll see men understand their own worth complete with enhanced sense of self.
Yep. You nailed it.
Very well said. Our society has been effectively reorganized around arbitrary and meaningless values. Men fall at the very bottom of that list. Actually, it is worse than that, men (straight and especially white, but all men really) are viewed as the PROBLEM for everything. In the face of that they are supposed to open up and do what is considered effectively complaining? When society says they have it better than anyone else and can do, be and say whatever they want because they have all the power?? Hmm, I wonder why men don’t confide in people….
This. Brian, it feels like you totally nailed it here.
And those blaming it on a weak disposition are obviously not getting the point, making it even worse.
Spot on! Check the yearly suicide statistics for a very grim picture. In 2019, men were four times as likely to commit suicide as women. (Per the CDC).
Other posters here blaming millennials or taking a “suck it up buttercup” approach will change their tune when someone close to them takes their own life.
Men have very few support options and asking for help is seen as a sign of weakness. Society reaps what it sows.
Crybaby culture ? That is truly an evil comment. No man should suffer in silence – just because he is a man.
You are the problem. And I but you’re old as f**k
You’re abusive, and you don’t contribute much.
No, it’s people like you. Name calling and insulting instead of talking about the real issues. You’re a Millenial and have issues, we get it, but going around telling everyone it’s their fault and that they are “old” isn’t going to make it better. You have to take responsibility and make improvements within yourself. There is plenty of blame to go around and we’ve all contributed to this issue to some degree, however, some of us are actively trying to make it better and others are like you…making it worse.
I’m sure these numbers are heavily impacted by millennials, pajama boys and hipsters. Grow a pair.
I agree that is definitely part of the problem. I’m GenX and I learned long ago not be afraid of letting my emotions out in the right settings and when truly needed, but I also know how to be who I am, which is a masculine and decent man. I could care less about all the prevailing new theories regarding where people fall on the victim scale and “toxic masculinity” and the “patriarchy”. Whatever, who cares about your idiotic theories. But, the Millenials have been spoon fed this nonsense since elementary school. They been effectively reduced to shells of men.
Well it was your generation that raised them. Maybe do some introspection old F***ing C**t
You’re abusive. However, it appears you won’t be removed bc of your presumed ethnicity
Not all of us, for instance, I’m smack in the middle of GenX and my kids are much younger than Millenials. A lot of Millenials were born to younger Baby Boomers.
Besides, it wasn’t our generation that decided it would be a good idea to destroy our school system with “woke” principles and create an entire new class structure based on victimhood. In fact, look around at the age of people who are fighting those ridiculous notions. It’s all GenX.
Oh you’re “sure” but you don’t actually know the study. Alright bud.
Men dont talk about their “problems” with other people. Men shouldnt talk about their problems with complete strangers. The problem today is that far too many people are willing to talk about their problems and issues with the entire world and complete strangers. There is nothing wrong with and everything right with confiding in a very select few whos opinions you value and trust. There is everything wrong with telling and sharing with the entire world. Its a joke
More Ads then content. IMO, link to this blog was nothing more than click bait. Will be adding ‘studyfinds.org’ to my spam folder.
Sounds about right.
I am assuming this survey was done on U.S. men. If they want to get over their anxieties on a lack of fulfillment in some aspect of their lives they should take a sabbatical, join a program and go help dig wells, plant crops, or build houses in a poor third world country. Two weeks of immersive experiences into how hard life really is and how the truly disadvantaged men in other cultures manage to build a life, will change their frame of mind. U.S. men have no idea how good they have it.
I could go on about the fake dopamine reward released from playing too many unrealistic video games or the pointless search for the perfect partner our media or porn has promise them.
To be successful in our American culture all you have to do is set long term goals supported by short term goals, work hard, play by the rules and invest with compounded interest. Don’t purchase useless junk. Strive for perfection but settled for excellence. Everything else will take care of itself. Expect setbacks, but above all else, treat everyone like you would have them treat you and count your blessings, life is hard and too short to live bitter and unhappy. Wish you guys the very best. Now where do women stand in regards to this?
“I am assuming this survey was done on U.S. men”
You can’t read?
“The poll of 2,000 British men”
Men? What’s a men?
If the people polled include the cleless dolts that voted for Biden and accept the silly left stuff then who cares. Change out of your skinny jeans and stop whimpering.
Boo hoo hoo.
Huh. You must live in a rock.
Wouldn’t the “average man” rate his mental health a 5. Otherwise he isn’t an “average man”.
Ha. Nice catch.
War on women that Democrats claim as part of their decisive identity politics ?
Far from it…it has been a brutal war on men for the last decade.
Shame on you for inserting this kind of bitterness and aggression towards other men who are looking for support.
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