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NEW YORK — Cuffs, plugs, and vibrators — oh my! A new survey finds all the time sitting inside during the coronavirus pandemic is making many adults friskier than ever before.

In a survey of 2,000 Americans, more than three in 10 people (32%) admit to having a kink their partner doesn’t know about. Another 46 percent in relationships want to spice up their sex life, but worry their partner will judge them. These hidden desires include trying new sex positions (44%) and kinks such as public sex (23%), BDSM (22%), and roleplaying (21%).

Conducted by OnePoll on behalf of MysteryVibe, the study finds three in 10 believe their sex drive is increasing during the COVID-19 pandemic. Four in 10 people are more open to exploring their sex life and sexual desires now than before the pandemic. In fact, men are much more open to spicing things up now (54%) in comparison to women (30%).

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sex relationshipsSome fantasies however, such as involving multiple partners or group sex (27%), S&M (26%), and BDSM (24%) are still too taboo to attempt. Men are more likely to consider S&M off-limits (32%), while women believe multiple partners and group sex is just too risqué (25%). Four in 10 want to try sex toys — including 43 percent of men and 23 percent of women — but are afraid of how their partner will react to the idea.

In some cases, the sex toys themselves expose a hidden fear factor. Butt plugs (27%), anal beads (24%), and whips (23%) top the list of most intimidating sex toys for Americans. Nearly half of male respondents add they feel uncomfortable bringing up the notion of sex toys to their partner, compared to three in 10 women. Additionally, 56 percent feel like it’s more socially acceptable for women to use sex toys than men.

Researchers find lack of sexual experimentation can be a relationship deal-breaker. A quarter of respondents would break up with a partner who’s unwilling to experiment in bed (34% of men and 19% of women). Among those in a relationship, 57 percent want to improve their communication skills with their partner regarding sex, but don’t know where to start.

“Sex toys can be a great segue to exploring sexual desires with a partner and enhance the relationship by bringing your fantasies to life together,” says Dr. Soum Rakshit, CEO of MysteryVibe, in a statement. “However, we all have different anatomies and erogenous zones, so it can be a daunting task finding toys will arouse you and your partner.”


  1. Public sex 23%
  2. Bondage, discipline, dominance and submission (BDSM) 22%
  3. Role playing 21%
  4. Multiple partner / group sex 20%
  5. Anal sex 18%
  6. Orgasm control 18%
  7. Impact play (i.e., spanking, flogging, paddling, consensual striking) 17%
  8. Phone sex / webcam sex 15%
  9. Sadism and masochism (S&M) 13%
  10. Voyeurism 12%

About Chris Melore

Chris Melore has been a writer, researcher, editor, and producer in the New York-area since 2006. He won a local Emmy award for his work in sports television in 2011.

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