Well, unicorn hunting as you describe is a very patriarchal and limited form of polyamory. Hopefully it’s less about “couple seeks a third” and more about “individuals acknowledge that one person may not necessarily meet 100% of their needs”
So basically no hard proof. Just opinion. And the argument of raising children is easier with more than one father or mother. Please! That’s straight up bs. Yes, a child needs more than one caregiver: 2 grandpas, 2 grandmas, aunts, uncles, close family friends, well paid respected teachers. But since we are in a society that values individualism and underfunded its school system while replacing community with a “meet my needs now” attitude: we want to replace the intergenerational family unit with our selfish needs partners. Please. And use the kids as an excuse for the bs…. come on. Give me a break.
Humans evolved in tribes. These tribes consisted of many families working together. Each child had many mothers and many fathers. These tribal units still exist in many places around the world today. The question, “are humans monogamous,” can’t be answered definitively, but the evidence suggests we are not. This is supported by the fact that most cultures have polygamist roots, if you go back far enough. However, polygamy is harmful to society and most cultures have pushed to remove it, for that reason. Polyamory, on the other hand, is beneficial to society. Instead of creating an imbalance in society, it brings it together, which is closer to our tribal origins.
Polyamorous relationships don’t seem any worse
than serial monogamous relationships.
Back in the bad old days,
monogamy was almost the only defense
against dreadful, incurable venereal diseases.
Monogamy also provided assurance of paternity
in the days before effective birth control was available
and paternity could be proven.
Modern medicine has changed the playing field.
Also, if the argument for gay marriage
is that a person should be able to marry
the person they love
wouldn’t it stand to reason
that a person should be able to marry
the people they love.
Personally, I have no desire
to disappoint two women.
I have been in a polyamorous relationship with 3 men for 5+ years and my children are grown. Monogamous couples have their thing and i have mine. I don’t damn them and they should not damn mine. No one person can ever fulfill everything you want or need in life and anyone who says they can or do, is lying. The men in my life are incredibly busy powerful businessmen. Each, on their own, would have no time to have a complete relationship. But they have time to have a beautiful, wonderful polyamorous relationship. They are wonderful souls who would do anything for me but their time is limited due to work. Does this mean they are unworthy of love and a fulfilling relationship? Of course not. This works perfect for us. Every relationship is different and no one should care why anyone has a different type of one than their own. So call it BS or nay say it. But i simply call it love.
A majority of “couples” only want another woman. OPP is more important then the love from the potential partner.
Well, unicorn hunting as you describe is a very patriarchal and limited form of polyamory. Hopefully it’s less about “couple seeks a third” and more about “individuals acknowledge that one person may not necessarily meet 100% of their needs”
What’s your source on this Douglas?
So basically no hard proof. Just opinion. And the argument of raising children is easier with more than one father or mother. Please! That’s straight up bs. Yes, a child needs more than one caregiver: 2 grandpas, 2 grandmas, aunts, uncles, close family friends, well paid respected teachers. But since we are in a society that values individualism and underfunded its school system while replacing community with a “meet my needs now” attitude: we want to replace the intergenerational family unit with our selfish needs partners. Please. And use the kids as an excuse for the bs…. come on. Give me a break.
Word!
Humans evolved in tribes. These tribes consisted of many families working together. Each child had many mothers and many fathers. These tribal units still exist in many places around the world today. The question, “are humans monogamous,” can’t be answered definitively, but the evidence suggests we are not. This is supported by the fact that most cultures have polygamist roots, if you go back far enough. However, polygamy is harmful to society and most cultures have pushed to remove it, for that reason. Polyamory, on the other hand, is beneficial to society. Instead of creating an imbalance in society, it brings it together, which is closer to our tribal origins.
Word!
Polyamorous relationships don’t seem any worse
than serial monogamous relationships.
Back in the bad old days,
monogamy was almost the only defense
against dreadful, incurable venereal diseases.
Monogamy also provided assurance of paternity
in the days before effective birth control was available
and paternity could be proven.
Modern medicine has changed the playing field.
Also, if the argument for gay marriage
is that a person should be able to marry
the person they love
wouldn’t it stand to reason
that a person should be able to marry
the people they love.
Personally, I have no desire
to disappoint two women.
I’m all for a polamorous realitionship. I have enough love in my heart for 2 women.
I have been in a polyamorous relationship with 3 men for 5+ years and my children are grown. Monogamous couples have their thing and i have mine. I don’t damn them and they should not damn mine. No one person can ever fulfill everything you want or need in life and anyone who says they can or do, is lying. The men in my life are incredibly busy powerful businessmen. Each, on their own, would have no time to have a complete relationship. But they have time to have a beautiful, wonderful polyamorous relationship. They are wonderful souls who would do anything for me but their time is limited due to work. Does this mean they are unworthy of love and a fulfilling relationship? Of course not. This works perfect for us. Every relationship is different and no one should care why anyone has a different type of one than their own. So call it BS or nay say it. But i simply call it love.