NEW YORK — The pressure is on for millions of couples across America on Valentine’s Day. Do you go with flowers or chocolates? Fancy restaurant or home-cooked meal? A new survey finds that when it comes to the romantic holiday, most people wind up completely failing to steal their partner’s heart.

The survey of 2,000 adults in relationships asked respondents to grade their significant others on how well they bring the romance every February 14th. A flower-wilting 58 percent gave their partners an “F” for their V-Day efforts.

Only 15 percent felt their mate was worthy of an “A” grade, while a mere 6 percent were given a “B,” the survey showed. Ten percent gave their partners a “C,” and 11 percent a “D.”

“Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to express how much you love your partner, but as the survey results show far too many are missing the mark and not getting the job done,” says Aaron Cooper, president of the North America division of Groupon, which sponsored the study, in a statement. “The good news is that we’ve uncovered the Valentine’s Day gifts sure to ignite the romance and help you knock it out of the park this year.”

So what makes for a passing grade when it comes to Valentine’s Day surprises? Definitely a gift of some sort. Seven out of ten participants agree that getting a gift was important. Interestingly, 50 percent of the respondents felt that chocolates were a must-have gift, compared to just 46 percent when it came to flowers. Forty-six percent of participants also thought that a massage was an appropriate present.

Others really expect their partners to go all-out for the holiday. Thirty-six percent of participants hope for jewelry, while 31 percent would like an exotic getaway. Another 31 percent would be happy with a spa package, whereas 30 percent feel a staycation at a local hotel would win their heart.

A romantic dinner was also an overwhelming must. But do you stay in or go out? Nearly six in ten (58 percent) preferred an evening on the town, while 39 percent swoon for a home-cooked meal.

While roses were naturally the most popular Valentine’s Day flower, the most popular alternatives were: a flowering bonsai, tulips, edible arrangements, lilacs, and sunflowers.

Interestingly, men seem to be more demanding with their Valentine’s Day expectations. About half of the male participants felt that their partner should put in maximum effort when it comes to finding a gift, compared to just 36 percent of women.

And more than anything, couples just hope for an invigorating burst of love in their relationship come February 14. Six out of ten participants hope the holiday will reignite the romance with their partner.

The survey was conducted by market research firm OnePoll.

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