NEW YORK — People will stick out a bad date for an average of 51 minutes before making their excuses to leave, a new survey reveals. The poll of 2,000 adults also finds that it only takes 25 minutes to notice a spark, or lack of one, between potential lovers. As for dates which have a bad vibe in the planning stages, daters typically cancel the reservation 19 hours before the mismatched event begins.
The top excuses people give to get out of a date include an emergency at work, sick relatives, and a broken-down car. However, the number one go-to excuse for avoiding a romantic meeting with someone is still claiming you don’t feel well.
The research was commissioned by breakdown provider, Britannia Rescue, part of LV= General Insurance, which has joined forces with TV personality Denise Van Outen to set up a “Dateside Rescue Hotline,” generating excuses to help people make a swift exit from a boring date.
“Over the years I’ve certainly been on my fair share of bad dates,” says Van Outen in a statement. “We all know there’s nothing worse than when you just don’t click with someone, and desperately want to be rescued.”
“I had a lot of fun coming up with the excuses for this one and hope the hotline goes a little way to help elevate the pain of bad dates this February.”
1 in 4 ghost people before their scheduled date
The survey also finds that 44 percent have used an excuse to get out of going on a date altogether, while one in five have left a date halfway through. Other reasons people use to escape a date include work deadlines, friends or family showing up unannounced, and being stuck in traffic.
Of those who have left mid-date, popular tactics to escape include having friends phone with a fake emergency, claiming to have a headache, and even saying their pet is ill. It also emerged that 23 percent admit to “ghosting” someone — stopping all contact with them before a date. Three in 10 have been the person getting stood up.
Another 58 percent have sat through a date despite knowing there was no spark, because of a need to be polite (72%), a hope it might get better (37%), and feeling uncomfortable saying anything (36%). However, for 48 percent, honesty is the best policy, and they claim that they’re always upfront with the other person about why they are leaving or cancelling a date.
Tell-tale signs a date might not be right before even arriving include poor conversation flow (52%), struggling for topics to talk about (50%), and someone having no sense of humor (48%). Meanwhile, rudeness (48%), constantly checking their phone (37%), and an awkward atmosphere (36%) are behaviors which would cause people to consider making an excuse to leave a date.
So, when is a date a success?
For a meet-up to be successful, 68 percent need to feel comfortable, 58 percent require lots of laughter, and 57 percent simply look for a “spark.” The study, carried out by OnePoll, also finds 53 percent claim to enjoy dating and would even travel an average of 24 miles for a really good date.
The top dating venues or activities are a restaurant dinner (38%), drinks at a bar (29%), and a walk (22%).
Top 20 Excuses People Have Used to Get Out of a Date:
- You’re not feeling well
- A family member is ill
- An emergency at work
- You have a headache
- You forgot about something important you need to do instead
- Tell them you realise you aren’t ready for a relationship
- Your car broke down
- You have a deadline at work
- Friends or family just showed up for a surprise visit
- You’re stuck in traffic
- You forgot
- Your pet is ill
- You accidentally already ate
- You can’t find the date venue
- You’ve had an allergic reaction
- You’ve been arrested
- Your date looks too similar to a sibling or other relative
- You’ve just been mugged
- Your date looks too similar to your ex
- A pipe has burst at home
72Point writer Alice Clifford contributed to this report.
What about a person who spend the last year with. Travel to top of Australia he stay up there but we spoke every day still. 2 months I buy plane ticket to go back up. He was counting the day down with me and watch me pack my bag on video call. . Then on Xmas day when message I get a message saying he slept with one else and that was it and he ghosted me ever since.. You shout be charged for it.. It plays with your emotions and play with your head big time.. And still. Playing with mine.. I just don’t understand